Patience, Academia, Respectfulness Educated, Nourishing, Temperament and Strength -

THINGS TO THINK ABOUT

THIS IS WRITTEN TO PROVOKE THOUGHTS

HOPEFULLY IT INSPIRES THE MOTIVATION TO PURSUE LEARNING MORE WAYS TO BE AND BECOME A GOOD AND OR A BETTER PARENT.

IT'S NOT SOME MAGICAL PROCESS THAT COMES AUTOMATICALLY; YOU MUST INVEST IN LEARNING HOW TO BE A PARENT. READ, RESEARCH, AND TALK WITH OTHER PARENTS ABOUT MATTERS OF BEING A PARENT, TALK TO YOUR OWN PARENTS ABOUT BEING A GOOD PARENT, AND BY ALL MEAN, THE EARLIER YOU ACCEPT THE FACT THAT YOU DON'T HAVE ALL THE ANSWERS. THE QUICKER YOU BECOME WISE ENOUGH TO KNOW HOW TO LEARN

THEN,
YOU OPEN YOUR MIND TO WANT TO LEARN.

I think everything in the life of a parent and a child is important. The point of teaching - starts at day one. But it's such a complex matter, but first and foremost.. The Parent must be one that is a Parent, and Understands what that means.

It certainly means more than you being the one to give birth to the baby,
or
just being the sperm provider that initiated the birth process.


Patience, Academia, Respectfulness Educated, Nourishing, Temperament and Strength -

If you don't have those you probably are not going to be a very good parent.



By the Time your child reaches the Age of 4 - 5 - the pattern you have set in motion is very prominently evident., and if you have not instill in your child a thirst for learning, a thirst for pursuing learning, and develop an appreciations for learning.
Then, you have already created visible sign that you are failing your child, and you are not being responsible.
When your child reach the age to go to pre-school, you should by that time, have taught your child how to get along with other children, and how to function in group activities and more so of importance
"HOW TO LISTEN, AND PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT IS BEING SAID"

If you have an un-manageable child at the age of 3, then that is your sign that you are failing in your job, and you have not properly prepared your child to move to the next stage, because by the time that child turn 4, there should be a solid and firmly understood base of discipline instilled in this child, of respect, and how to regard the elders in their lives.

They should be more interested in learning than being simply a busy body.
If you have ignored your child, the effects of it shows early, when they do anything without thought for attention, and they continually will do things, they are told not to do just to get attention. When you see your kids destroying their toys, and fits of anger, that is telling you, YOU, have not taken enough time, nor have you shown the patience to help your child learn how to understand.

Playing is not just playing, you have to choose carefully the type of things you provide for your child to indulge and entertain their minds, You need to monitor and make sure the child understand what the toy is, so they can learn from their interacting with the toys.

The mindset of telling your child "go play" as a means to get rid of them, or get them out of your presence, is nothing more than a form of raw neglect, No, you instruct your child in what they are to go and do, and allow them to have options within their choosing - they learn to develop a process within their activities of playing.

Remember barking instructing in a stream is not talking with your child, it is barking instructions, and it takes care and patience, to talk with your child.
Far too many Parents think, saying Stop, I told you don't do this; I'm going to whip your butt, and go sit down.

You communication with the child must go much further than that. - they have a mind and they can learn and they can communicate, the problem many times, becomes the parent and their inability to communicate, it's not the child’s fault. If you think the child is hard headed, then that alone tells you, you need to spend more time helping them understand.


For the Young Men
It's most certainly as much your job as you think it is the mothers job, to have a process in place of interacting and engaging your child, not just looking at the child as if they are some foreign object, and calling the mother, to come and get the child, because you don't want to invest the time, until you get the urge to say something to it. so the point is, NOT TO SEE YOUR CHILD AS AN "IT' .. But as your child that you helped created, and you must invest to help raise and educate.

For the young males.. If you can't be responsible enough to know what kind of responsibility that you are creating, then you need to keep your pants zipped up, and put your ego in check, and go learn something, and put some thought into learning how to be responsible.

It does not make you a big man, because you are laying from one street corner to the next, and ducking and dodging, and trying to bed down every female that passes your space. First and foremost it simply shows that you have less respect for yourself, and even less for the females. And you measure yourself by something you can't even be response for the consequence of your actions. One fact is always a fact, it takes respectful appreciation to engage a woman, and respect yourself and her in doing so. (Each man should think about what that means) - there are far too many women, being left to raise kids alone - It is pure madness, and it is showing that men are not being men and has less of care to take actions to be men.

(The big difference between a man and a boy, is not the size of his thing, it is a sense and embrace of responsibility - if you have dumped your responsibility, then you are nothing but an over-grown boy - afraid to take on the responsibility of being a man. )

Young women, stop and think, an take time to figure out what you are doing, just because your breast grow, and your butt has enlarged itself in natural growth. Don't delude yourself to think you can use it simply to catch, hold, and control. Because the only thing it will do is Catch you caught in a world of situation that you are not prepared to handle, it will Hold you back from learning how to be responsible before you are forced into a responsibility that your are ill equipped to meet, and the only thing that will be Controlled its, you.. And that means you are out of control, because you can't meet the responsibility, nor can you embrace the learning to develop yourself to be able to be in control to make choices that you have some level of control to manage.


Now if you don’t understand that.. It would benefit your greatly - to read it as many times as necessary to get a clear understanding, and by all means don't take off your clothes to connect within anyone, if you first have not thought deeply and learn a great deal about what it means to be responsible.

You say you want to be free to do what ever.. Well that freedom only comes through responsibility.. Just running free to do stuff, is nothing but chasing a manner of self imprisonment; into struggle, strife and despair, and then you are caught up, bringing a life into such confusion.
Then it is certain, that you will only groom what?? More than likely, nothing more than a child that is confused, and unlearned and untrained to know how to learn.

Fast talking, hip slinging, and making your body like a fishing lure, as if you are walking "Bait", and the other “walking and living like a Fish" , getting caught on every hook that hits the water.


The GENERATION OF IGNORANCE IS OVER-

This is the Age for Learning and The Time for Understanding. Nope.. it is not about, how pretty you think your butt is, nor how attractive you image your face to be, nor is it about how many muscles you have, or how thuggish you can looks, and how foolish the effort of trying to be cool makes you, insult yourself, in a fit of delusions upon delusion. And always the end result bring you, to a point, where your world is about the external imagery, and you have given up on the substance of character to be and develop yourself into a person who has a contribution to bring to society, that benefits the ongoing improvements of living for society.

Yea... there is more to it than you ... getting a flicker of pleasure manipulating each other into a frenzy of silliness until you loose your mind, and find yourself strapped with more responsibility that you can conceive to handle.

Look around yourself.. This generation of young people have forgotten that "cleanliness is next to Godliness", and so many look not only unclean but fully unkept. Many have kids, they can't take 10 minutes to comb their hair, or fix their clothes neat, or teach them how to actually pronounce a word, and speak a sentence. Parents talking like they have never been inside of a classroom, and acting as if they never were taught how to spell a word, but first learn how to pronounce it, so you can actually know how to spell it. Parents are walking around in a near clown costume, with hair looking like a circus act performer, men slouching around with clothes falling off, and can't walk 5 steps without pulling up his pants, as they keep falling down. Unaware that such madness, occupies his mind, to the point he can't do anything, for trying to keep his pants from falling down. It's no different than being handcuffed!!!! Self enslaved by the ignorance of such, unaware to pay attention to the process of such madness. Which is but a form of bondage, one has made of themselves.

Young people walk about in a perpetual daze, just simply with a self suppressed and depressed look about themselves, because they have not taken time to find anything of value within themselves, or explore a talent or pursued a hobby, or invest in learning something which prepares them to be a contributor in life, while at the same time it helps build character and self worth within themselves..

PARENTS... yes.. those who are, and those who are thinking of becoming one, or those who blindly fall into the fact of being forced to be one.

You may need to truly think about many things.

When you send your child to school, the teacher is not there to home train them, nor to train them in the basic function of living, that is your Job. The Teacher is there to help educated them in how to improve upon the basic teaching that parents instill in them. If the parent has instilled the principle of -how to learn, the importance of learning and the thirst for learning, - that child will excel in doing so.

Many parents are even an embarrassment to their own child; they won't even comb their hair before taking a child to school, as if they are not an embarrassment to their own child. That is how unaware some parents are.

Schools tries to teach kids to learn more words, and the kids come home and listen to parents who butcher words so terrible so, they are unrecognizable, and they mumble and two words sound like one words, that is not in any dictionary in any country on this planet.

If you don't have regard to go to school functions, and insure that your child participate in the functions the school offer, then you are doing your child a grave dis-service and you have shown them the ultimate in disrespect for their ability to develop to functioning in the world, interactively so. When you child brings home failing grades, and you don't make adjustment to improve your ability to be a parent, then your child will continue to fail and bring home poor grades. The grade is not only on the child, it is a reflection on you, as a parent. Because it signals that you too earned that D, or that F.

If you don't attend the school plays, you don't attend their sports events, you don't attend the school to be a part of anything your child is doing, then you are the problem, not the child. And you are failing at being a parent.

If your child is developing an attitude as a bully and a thug, then you need to pay attention to your capability as a parent.

If you keep a messy house, and things are unkept, the yard is a mess and you allow paper to be in front of your house, or the place just is a pig pen. Then you not only have humiliated your child, you have taught them the process of developing a mentality to be also comfortable to live in a pig pen. You don't need to have a fancy this or fancy that. But you most certainly need to have a neat, clean and orderly home. Your child deserves it.

Patience, Academia, Respectfulness Educated, Nourishing, Temperament and Strength -

If you don't have those you probably are not going to be a very good parent.