which stars shall we count ?

and how far in space shall we look.. shall we count those near, and not acknowledge those that are in the distance.
shall we count those that twinkle, or those that glow as if they are a match light in the dark that flickers...
shall we count none, and appreciate the majesty of all,.... for they are there for us... and they give us a mystery of majesty that fills our minds with their glory, for they too.. live ... as they glow... and none can stake a claim, but all can own.

of those we should count, becomes all.. as simply a graceful blessing in creation.

"watercolors"

it's delightfully inspiring to listen to XM radio, "Watercolors" channel while on the computer... I almost forgot how much I love music,.. I even like to dance to the progressive jazz, maybe even more than I like dancing to regular dance music... it's like more movenment can be added to catch various instruments and their flow.

for over 20 years I played my bass, and now have not touched in it years... what a trip.. but listening to this music makes me know how much I enjoyed it.

the melodramatic realism of musicians who still play actual instruments, rather than sampling what others made years ago ...

I remember some of the old great stuff, the era of the likes of Donald Byrd, Rickey Lee Jones, the master of the sax, Grover Washington, and John Coltrane and many of the great musicians that delighted me with the magic of sound.. the OJ's, the Isley Brothers, SADE, and Marvin Gaye, Jackie Wilson " Horace Silvers_ " A Song for my Father" an all time classic....
Pink Floyd, David Sandborne... and the wonder of greatness melodically making love, love making, with sounds.. "music"

I even think of my enjoyment of drawing cartoon characters from the news papers, there were a few I enjoyed drawing them... and adding captions to the drawings.... making stuff with wood, and just being artistically creative with anything that could be gathered, to make things out of... Artistry and it's passion, then when I got lost in the love of business, seems the artistry of other things seem to have move into position change, Ideas... by the 1000's and writing like it was a natural thing to do, and days come and days go and I alway find time to write... it's been a thing for the years and days of my living..

such things of many variable ... that bring me many many joys...and the melding of music makes it come crystal clear.

so many interest, all the way back to the days when I loved building automobiles, engines .. but todays vehicles have too much stuff, thought I'd like to integrate many computerized things even more so into it.. it's amazing the ventures of the artist of the human mind... and loves come in so many flavors and some many shapes and forms, connected with creativity.. create's always something beautiful..

reminds me that even thru the many trips of much changes and things that meet abstractions.. it's always a connection to love, if one cares to see it's there beneath all the trips, changes and challenges.... always rendering beauty in and of life and living. the complexity of simplicity.. makes what is .. tangible in it's simplicity presentation, no matter how complex it's composure is..

I can see ... I've been graciously blessed in countless dimensions and multiple ways... and I'm thankful.

of what matters

many many things.. ventured, explored and experiences, and the things I've seen, and found in this life, is the magic that make it expound on it's essence of beauty... is love.

so many go thru such devastation of pains of the heart simply to love.. and I seem to have dedicated d amass porting to the explorations of what, why and how, the hearts ping so much, simply to share love.

if by the chance and the choice, many can look into thoughts shared, and find something that yeild the pathways to free the shackles of fears .. that love may yeild into their lives, expressiveness. un constrained by the traps of expectations, and find it's way out of the fogs of desires mirages... then simply ... love may see in the clear light of life..

every imaginable reason exist, to justify the simplicity of love.. which is plain.. as the natural sunshine.... simply to express itself, for the sole sake of sharing..


none will take away from this life, the things, challenges nor the tribulations, but surely everyone has the ability to simply... share loving.for the sake of allowing love to breath within and as it is.. simply .. feeling engaging life with passion... of appreciating ..

and such reveals to the eyes, even the majesty of the colors of a butterfly... which one may desire to touch and feel, the magic dust of it's beauty on the finger tips... and such lightness carries the drama of impact . . of life's grace.

and it's free.... simply because it exist to be..

and we are free to enjoy and engage ... that's the grand gift .. that was given as our gift.. simply to appreciate..

why do we destroy it within expectations.. when we only have to apply our expressions of appreciations...

and the question of love is simple..

shall you know my love, that I know yours.. and we share the love that is what is ours to create it's magical expressions... how simple... how real..

of what matters.

Congress wake up and stand up

why the government does not impose on the SEC to halt all futures trading on fuel.. it’s the base element that moves nations, it should not be left to speculators,.. the government should set a fuel consortium up for each country, and let them deal with volume and distribution.. not speculators who are greed masters, who have not regard for society.. they only care to be driven by their greeds that is destroying nations. each country has demand that can manage the cost and price of fuel.. but when they turned it over to greed masters it has become a society destroying model.. just like they did with the Dot coms, and just like they did with the RE markets..

fuel and it’s derivatives never should be on the open commodities markets, nations busy enough, and nations should buy and sell to the oil companies .. not.. speculators.. then the right taxation will be applied and the right governance and controls will be in place.. but this madness of oil companies making 11 billion profit in 3 months is indicator enough that this needs regulation..

"lying"

believe it or don't.. life gives
every lie right back to the liar.. and the liar
is the one who has to waste their mind remembering the lie,
when people speak truthfully, they don't have to struggle
to remember it, it's part of their being and they can
express it freely and openly...


the liar has to add more lies to justify the first lie and
their life becomes the lie, as they have to live it's
snow-balling impact,


that why in relationship when people tell those what they
call " courtesy lies", eventually they will
dislikke the person they tell it to, because they have to
live with the knowing they lied and now it means the see the
person as being less than, and each lie they add to it, the
person become even lesser and lesser, and eventually...
they don't want to be around the person, because they
have to live as a liar just to be in the presence of the other..



a lie and truth are like life and death.. there is no such
thing as being .. a little dead.. you either are dead or you
are alive..


and so too is a lie, it's either a lie or it's not..



some people think being nice is to tell courtesy lies...
but such a person is no less a liar.

"Just People"

regardless of whom the person is.. one way you can alway look to see the equalizing factor in people.. is simply if you can find no other method.. just imagine them in a disaster situation.. such as a earth-quake, tornado or a flood or some natural disaster..

suddenly nature present the great equalizer.. " their money, fame, status, community position or their employment title or being pretty.. will not save them.. they have to fend for themselves like everyone else.. and suddenly their true temperament comes to surface..

if they are cut they will bleed..

so you can skip past the ego some display and they are an arrogant and vengeful and harm motivated person.. it's probably someone that you'd care not to deal with anyway.. and if you have to deal with them.. you can alway do so without getting caught up in their trip.. or just simply avoid them.

everyone is just people.. Not one billionaire .. will get to return after death.. any more than anyone else will.

who is pretty will with time change..... and those who think that sex appeal will win them the world.. will too get to a point in life if they live long enough where they can't have the drive to have sex.. so mankind's conditions are alway a thing moving toward insignificance.. because age changes all things.. as well as situation circumstance and conditions.. and everyone is "just people"

Living simple

Respect... it's the way to find simplicity.. because if people hold respect for things, they take nothing for granted..

and you may find that life yield so much more into your sphere of interactivity, in the positive realm of your life.

Living simple... is not in contentions but in understanding, not just yourself, but others, you don't have to enjoin all that you understand, but you surely should enjoin what you are not willing to understand..

Living simple, is found within expression, and expression includes many things, including silence, but the wisdom to know what is silence is a very intricate thing, don't be silent because you are trying to be coy and slick and wicked and mischievous.. but when you simply have nothing to say, that is with reason and conviction, then silence is your better choice of expression.

A great thing that assist in the act of "living simple"... is to "think", and, to do so beyond your own self interest, but on the interest of the interactive realism, that your interest engages....

What is Loving ??

it's the simplest thing imaginable in this world, which we complicate with self importances and sometimes our own over elation of self importance.

you look, you see , you like, you invest time to share and, enjoy... you take the time to understand, and the effort to appreciate.. and before you know it.. " You're Loving"
( don't destroy it with a millions questions born of doubts or expecting someone to be obsessed over you and stop wasting time,seeking some delusion of a guarantee. ) just cut the trip.. and enjoy the realism of Loving. you might find, you like, Loving.

yes, appreciation takes effort.. the effort to look at people with thoughts to consider and be considerate, to look with the effort to see beyond the imagery of the situation and yes... the simple fact of being open enough to interact..

no matter how great you think you are, in this life, that's a up and down thing, and you result to be just a human being in the middle of that up and down cycle.. and you are a person, because you exist and your are personable becasue and if you make effort to be so.

if you get where you think you are so special that no one is good enough, you are probably far less than the person you delude yourself to be.. and when reality is acknowledged you may find that you are far too judgmental and possibly stuck up and maybe even more stuck on yourself to the point that you can't be free to relate or communicate with others. because.. the consumption with self importance.. has made your less important.. in what is loving and the ability to express and share it.

when you think that your possession make your more than a person who has few... you are unaware, that the person who may have few, may be freer than you, because the things you own, they too own you, because they command your time, even when you don't want to give it, because if you don't give it those things deteriorate, and in the deteriorated presentations, all it then represents is that you are a person who can't maintain the things they seek to possess..
and when those possession make you think, you are above others, you may stop and realize that they will go out of style, they will break down and they will not last forever as some new item.

that in no way means, don't get what you want and like and appreciate it.. that means.. you got to know that everything you own, owns a part of you..

and reality hold true that nothing is free, and the cost is always greater than the imagination has engaged to consider..

we are a people who alway say.. "we don't have time for this or that".. and we may or may not stop to consider what and why we don't have time, and when it's sometimes too late.. the things we always say.. we wish we had given more time.. is the people in our lives..

you may want to ask.. What is Loving,

and how am I giving it time to be Loving.

what good is it ??

if you got passion .. and you don't share it, what good is it??

if you got a nice figure and nice perky breast and a nice face.. what is the point, if you trip out about someone appreciating it. and what does it do for you beyond selfish pleasure if you don't share the pleasure it can inspire with someone.?

people forget.. that in the end result, we are mere skeletons with mass on it and that's what will remain when it's all said and done..

suppose you become suddenly incapacitated tomorrow, while you are sitting around "saving it" for some dream illusion..?

yea, these things can happen to you.. and you can waste the gift of allure, and time will take it away, while your are sitting around saving it for a fairy tale..

and then so afraid to share it because in your mind you have made it more than it actually is, and suppressed it within conditions, that you never know how to appreciate what it can interactively do to even enrich your own life as well as share such into the lives of another.

and this is the mindset that is held by millions..

looking for a fairy tale... to the point they don't share the gift of life and the graces of what is interaction..

don't be such a fool hung up on being special till you deprive yourself of the simplicity which life gives you.. and that's the simply ability to share, be expressive, and engage experiences and explore the dimensions of your own passions in a shared realism..

there are people so high on themselves, they do nothing but run and hide out, because they are tripped about that someone may want to interact with them.. and some of those same one's .. do so because they have a bargain criteria so long and so filled with selfish expectations.. they never consider they are no more than a human being, who becomes less than a social being.. when they don't interact..

so if you are sitting home tripping on how nice the shape of your butt is, or how pretty you think your face or how special you think you are...
it may surprise you.. to find that you are living in a selfish bubble where you are more infatuated with yourself.. than you are anything.. and it may dawn on you.. that you are not a nice person.. and certainly not interactive.. lest it's conditional on you getting some bargain met.. which in principal.. is relative to being a person who sells themselves to the whimsical bargain of the moment.. in lieu of.. being a interactively social person.

there are pretty women, that other's suppress and hide them away like they are a golden egg, their goose laid.. and they are waiting to sell it to the highest bidder.. and there are some that pressure other's to become a commodity, and sell themselves to the highest bidder.. by crazy criteria.. that strip humanity right out of them and their lives.

this is not about squandering yourself before everything imaginable.. but you know what is a social interactive person and what is a person caught in a cycle and circle of conditions.. that are prohibitive of natural interactions.

now.. how free are you to love.. ??

people talk about all this cultural idenity.. and most of it is generalized summation... half the people don't even deal with their next door neighbor, and here in america, and in any other country on this globe,.. people move about so much, some every 5 years they are in a different neighborhood, and know far less of the people in the neighborhood each time..
there are people living in multi plex apartments, that don't even speak or talk to each other... and then there are some of the same people, who go to work and don't talk to certain people at work, either by, income earning seperation, or job description..

people walk down the street and many people won't even make eye contact with each other, and surely a greater % don't even speak to each other.. and people get in their personal transportation bubble, and ride about making mental summaries by what they view from and external distance, as they drive by at 35mph, and other sit in public transportation, looking at the floor..or looking right past everyone else on there; or they sit there, making mental judgments about the other passengers.. but never really knowing the depth or the realism of the persons they view.

so all this trip about.. who knows this culture and that culture.. is BS..

is self defeatist stuff... as if each person is trying to be more group oriented than they are... half the people in here can count their associates on one hand, and we have in so many places of the world , a Television culture, that watches certain shows, and identify with the world by those means..
and in the privacy of peoples homes, they have more varied things they do, that none but them know what it is...
what you become use to, is nothing but relevant to how long you are some place and how interactive you are in being there... and we being adaptable being... can adapt to where ever we find our lives in place... on any continent that we may venture to engage habitat.... and we adapt accordingly....
so, people need to relax.. and engage whom you like and let life be the living of two sharing what is.

all this sounds more like a "I'm more special than the next one"... or " my group is more special, than your group".. it's pure "BS" .. there is nothing but people.. and we are all creature of habit, and our habits can change and adapt as we desire to do so.

many people don't even know the names of the families in their neighborhood, and if they do, they only know of them by heare-say rhetoric...

why not just stop tripping, and if you like someone, like them, and share what you can... because there is none, ABSOLUTELY.. none who is an authority on any culture.. and you can take that authority, door to door and find their theories busted and shattered into a million pieces.. by the differences that exist within each household an even further by each member within that household.. and many people, who get trapped in some traditional cycle, or either trying to break out of it, or stressing to compress themselves to fit within it..

so .. the simpliest thing, is do what you do, like whom you like and share what you can of INDIVIDUAL understanding of each other..

but if it makes it better for you to claim all this stuff as your leaning post, as to why you don't have anyone.. then claim it. but it does not make your premise fit the landscape of life..

everybody who has 5 sense, can and does perceive the variable elements within their enviornment and if they have interest in a particular aspect they will seek out info on it..

people need to cut this delusion prop making trip out.. all you are doing is letting some good passions go to waste, hinging them on any kind of excuse that passifies.

you look, you see, you like, you hook up, and do what life presents within the sharing... why complicate simplicity...

this stuff sounds like everyone is trying to aspire to some stuffy BS Royal protocol... when it's just a matter of people, meeting, sharing and relating... and learning to regard the individual realism of one unto the other.

now if you can't do that without all the trips.. then you.. surely should understand why you are alone.. and why you may end up staying alone.

it's simple.. are you enough of a person to approach who you like, and to like them because you like them.. ??

and, many people can't even do that. they got to test and see if their small circle of friends approve, because they can even accept what they like and what they want..

when you can choose you love inspire of all this crap... you might then have come to the point .. to be able to love freely and openly.. without some biased endorsement being required.

BS, yourself if you want to... But this is not a testing ground.. this is the only life you will get..and you can't push a rewind button.. so you probably had best actualize your loving and increase your living experiences. within doing so.

some are walking around with some crazed mindset as if they are "saving it" for some dream fantasy, and days slip on by... and their love remains a internal illusion.. and they go about claiming everything else is a delusion.. because they fear choosing.

you will get no guarantee... so hold out for it if you choose.. and your life experiences and time, of passion expression and interchange.. is what you loose. and that.. my dear friends.. is what is your life.. that you.. choose to loose.. the opportunity to engage it for sharing..

you will not be the most beautiful in the world, and you will not find the most perfect anything in the world..

the world has more things of beauty, that such vain self acclaim.. may never acknowledge, being lost in self consumption. Age don't stop anything, nor where you are from will stop anything, if you see what you want, and you like it.

now.. how free are you to love.. ??

Why Some Succeed

Why some succeed Some thoughts on "why People do/don't succeed DOUBT !!!!!!!!!! the unwillingness to devise an idea and move forth with it, the unwillingness to put in the investigative time, the research efforts, the trial and error steps and the rework and rework, and learning more step by step. And taking what ever resources they can gather and investing in components that are necessary parts... attend the free seminars that offer information and seek out information of various aspects of what is desired.. thirst to learn, to know and to discover.. And enjoin the vast pool of information that exist all around you. There is always avenues that may lead more to information than a clear cut pathway, but it may even lead to a tool shed, that you can gather the tools needed to cut the pathway.. But it's always step by step... and fighting doubt back, and letting the inspiration and vision continue to lead.. Fatigue, yes, it will come, frustrations, they too will come, and the compound of confounding variables will come.. but it's step by step, and within all this stepping, it's prayer, pray for the understanding, the guidance, the will the clarity and all the things that you feel are of a challenge, give them in to prayer.. You will have the sleepless moments, and those moments that seem things are standing still and there's no way to get it moving, but .. let not doubt.. be your stopping point. you will meet people along the way, that fade in and fade out, people who care to be a part, but don't care to do a part... these things will come.. there will be people whom things are discussed, whom some have no idea about it, and some have not time to hear it.. and some will imply, and some may brazenly say, it's futile.. but .. that is where you have to be stronger than the doubt of others, and far stronger than the doubts within self.. this is the strength that God gives, this is were God carry you forth over the pathway, to the next phase and you may even wonder how did you arrive at that step.. but this is within the power of belief.. It is always he/she, whom hold fast to the movement of a dream, to learn and discover it's details, and know it's tribulations.. and when it's triumph present your dream into tangible realism... you will know.. The journey.. Will never have been some random draw of luck, but the luck of processes the luck of a determined will to find the luck within what works.. And when it's set and read to go.. there comes then another phase of the dream.. Which requires more work.. of a different form.. but it's the work of growth and continuing development.. if you have not the fortitude to entreat upon such an endeavor, then don't torment yourself about eh daily job that you do, just do it.. For there is nothing... that comes without the sweat of the brow, and the work that goes on within the self. Which has many many points that challenge the self... but.. What greater thing is there to have and hold beyond the continual challenge to self to find the better of self.. Be this in love, work or just simply daily existence. Shall you.. Care to probe deeper.. Why people do/or don't succeed.. And you shall know.. Which path you take.. Some will stumble into Success that someone else has already laid out for them, and some will be given opportunity in things that have built in successes, but such a person will have to at some point engage self to take it further or even to maintain it in a progressive format on a progressive path. The world has known many, who've had the golden spoon, only to choke on what they dish up with it…. And the wise few, have taken nothing for granted, and used that spoon, to feed others.. And find even greater success in the undertaking. There will be people who can help you but won't, and there will be people who will impede your path and fill it with boulders unrealistic in the point fact and motive of such, But if you are with the will of believing in self, staying honest and truthful in you engagment and interactions, with a single blow, those boulders will turn to dust, and simply become fodder for you to smooth the path you travel, that others may follow without the many perils of the same impediments. God is a giving God..to those who hold a heart to move forth, and bright with them thru their efforts something that serves the people… and if the will is within such a dream.. It will unfold and manifest itself thru your labors.. And you will know, what is a blessing and how blessed you are.. to honor the task within what is a dream.. Gods gifts are boundless.. When this is the steps driven from the spirit within the heart. May any who Dream and Believe in the Dream find within it, Gods presence, gently stepping in a sure cadence As so is the belief, then so too, unfolds the Dream. Hope this helps whom it helps.. Wishing you success in and within your Dream

"the Loss"

what has happen to the world where male and female.. make meeting and greeting and getting together such a situation of self denials, by criteria s that are constructed denials, of not just other individual, but, of self.. and the same criteria bring the individual into a cycle of doubts, self test and test upon other..

we find nothing, but, the diminishing realism of a self


people are so fragile and frail, and claim to be so strong and so dominant.. We build walls, fences, and borders, we can neither cross nor can other cross them.. and the result is a mass of people .. in self consumption and self absorption that leads to cycles and rituals of self gratification.. and we further claim no one is worthy of us.. as if we have in our minds made ourselves, a God.. seeking to be worshiped and praised, and sacrifices of unknown madness, we expect to be made for the mere assocciation with us ..

We who have become to think that money, and status labels of any sort imaginable makes us feel we are to be given near life devotional submission by others.. simply to relate..

it has become so mad, that the nature of a face that will change with age, and the ass that will change with time and breast that will change with time.. and now .. male trips of size enhancement madness, because the bodies of people have become, desentisized by manufactured contraptions, of self pleasurization tool..

we as people, create mindset and hold these things as if we are to be paid for, and promises of every sort made, because of such.. or we retreat to the contraptions...and then surround it with a lie .. claiming we want to be known for who they are inside.. when we have in reality become addicted to artificial stimulations of contraptions, drink and drugs...
when what shows in our manner is, the inside made real.. of what we claim is something other than what is actually real.. and what is real is what shows.. and that's a standoffish person, one that is vain and egotistical and one that self elates ourselves, above the assocciation with others..

we lie and claim that looks don't matter, but the first word uttered out of our mouth, is how cute someone is, followed by what title of position or job they have before their name..

but the first rule to mate with anyone is .. Know thyself.. and many of us continually lie, and surround that lie with philosophical rhetoric, to make us look the delusion we live, but the lie about that, continues to reveal itself in our daily lives.... and we live the contridiction of saying what we don't believe, nor make effort to live..

we live within the confines of our selfish criteria.. which become as much an imprisonment of ourselves as it becomes a fortress against others.

when it's claimed we can't find anyone, it may be because we have lost ourselves in the criteria we have imprisioned ourselves within., the same judgment and expectations and condemnations, we are so eager to throw upon other..which as we do.. we simply subscribe unto ourselves.. and deny what we describe... but knowing it is us, and our fears we are actually speaking about.. so what we get.. is filled with doubts of every sort.. that make us want to test and re-test everything.. chasing a delusion of a guarantee.. because we are such fear filled individuals.. who mostly fear the lies we tell ourselves will be discovered by others.

we now choose mates for the elation of ego, of what our associates think about our mate, not what we think and how we feel, about the mate.. it matter to us .. more what other will think about our choice.

so we seek these labels, the bank account, and the imagery, which we think will invoke envy in others..

and we become fools unto ourselves..

and crying about being alone. when we made the choice in the details of our criteria.

" what do we really know" ??

and whom do we really think we are ??

the loss .. has become and is becomming more and more .. the matter of life...

and we walk in the darkness of self delusion, and find nothing but confusion in our choosing.. because we live in a cycle of programmed loosing.

Guess what... " it probably includes you too"


Now.. facing those things.. we still come to the point..

we judge and are judged by the company we keep..

maybe we should simply care that others, are not liars, cheater who make thievery upon others their mainstay, and be of much care to distance ourselves from people who choose to be devious and malicious in their relations with other..

and to have that as a basis.. does not mean other have to have money or titles.. it means they simply have to have integrity within the character of themselves.. to be of honest in their living..

if we can find that simplicity of reasoning , about whom we relate.... then, it would serve us much better than.. basing our assocciation on material assessment, being the criteria of how and whom we relate with..

we would probably find our lives more happy and more enriched.. with the diversity of the world ..

" homemade Jam"

" homemade Jam' yes, most of our Jams are home-made, nope not the
Jams you put on a biscuit, but the "jams we find ourselves
entangled in our social realm..


they are home-made.. we have to first learn to recognize this, and once becoming
aware, then we can work to develop our lives thru change..
yes, it's within, and it is of our ability to do so..



step one, no matter how much we appreciate ourselves, be
it for what we own, how our body is built, or our face, or the
value we put on our sex organs, or the value we claim about
our achievements.


if you are sitting around wonder why you don't have
love.. and why there is so many problems in you finding love..
then that problems probably exist deep within you.. Are you with the dare to face such truth..


if you want kindness, then it has to first be given into the
expressive action of being and expressing yourself.


if you want love, then it has to first be given into the expressive
actions of being and expressing yourself..


we have to see individuals, not based on what we can get from
them, but what we can share with them..


we have to see individuals not for how much we get an ego boost
of them appreciating us, but how much joy we can feel to see
things in them to share and express appreciation about
and engage exchanging appreciations expressions.


we have to truly learn that we can't expect everyone
to agree to everything we think and say, and stop looking
for people who claim to agree to everything we say... because
everyone sees the world differently and there may be similarities,
but there is always the individual variation that has it's
differences.. so we may care to stop looking for appeasement,
and assuming that we can only get along with people who are
appeasing, and pretentiously over exaggerated in their
kind presentation... kindness that is real is equally
so truthful, and everything that is truthful is not always
pleasant to digest, because it challenges the values that
we cling to as if we are unable to grow and learn..and become
more aware therefore becoming more wise...in how to live.



homemade jam... is many times created by our ways of thinking,
which is many times, more selfish than considerate of the
self of others.


when we learn what is diversity, and embrace the mind to
regard and appreciate it, we then can see people as individual,
rather than our self measuring based upon ourself, which
influences our first internal impression of them... and
we just might learn to grow, and how to understand others,
thru sharing exchanges.. and seeing different perspective
to things..


we might learn to smile.. more naturally...


and relieve the continual running into "jams"..



all of us probably have many parts of ourselves within this..



do you see any parts of yourself in this ??

more on teaching kids about sex

you may care to answer him in an honest fashion, as you being
the women most admired in his life, he will value what you
tell him that department, and it will help his confidence
in what he learns when he begins to get to the age to relate
with girls and eventually women..


it's not that his question are weird, you are not at
ease to talk about what you know.. and you have to overcome
that, or he most certainly will pick up on your reluctance
and he will see it too, within the nature of it's insecurity
to discuss such.


people talk all this talk about, how the formating years
are important, but then don't engage the task that
come with a challenge in the life department of the realism
of the natural self and it's natural functions.


If kids are taught about God in the process, then they learn
responsibility along with awareness of their sexual self..
the natural self already has it's regard for the capacity
for responsibility, built within the sensitivity
of the concerns about our body organs. they know.. people
don't just go banging anything at any time, and they
will learn their roles in relations and among their peers
in that regards as well. there is a mass of realism in the
world that conveys the responsibilities that come along
with sex... and these kids see that too... they want to know
what they ask...

Teaching kids about sex and their body

just like they learn their ABC and to count, they should
be taught equally so about their body.. why let them grow
without being aware of their physical self... they can
understand more than people think they can.. that's
why the ask such intriguing question ... they know they have it between their legs, why not start
talking to them about what it is... they are the one's
who need the info and to learn to be comfortable with it,
rather than think it's something foreign to their
bodies, and their mind is not suppose to know about it..
but their eyes see it..


so teach them... I'm sure they can recognize anything
that is shown to them using a basic biology book... and while
being at it, you can teach them about their whole body, and
what it is to be responsible about it, so they know when puberty
comes, they know what that is too.


... so why not
talk to them, they already know that part of their body makes
them feel something, and they already know they like the
feeling and it catches their attention.. they will understand
more than people think they can..





but truth is people as many grow up in a society that tries
to make youth pretend that part does not exist, and they
are taught to ignore it, so they develop a go hide and play
with it mindset, and then lie and pretend they don't
know what it is... just to appease the parent. because
some parents get tongue tied and become suddenly plain
ignorant.. but the oddity of that, is that same parent can
tell their mate, all about how much they think they are not
getting their stuff played with enough and then getting
pissed off because the other person can't read their
mind of how they want it played with..


but when it comes to trying to teach kids about what it is..
they draw a blank...


you learn by teaching them, as their questions will teach
you too.

Relationships

“Relationships”

many people are hurt thru internet interactions, by people who think they are anonymously positing things, they don’t have to be accountable for..

what we do as people is what is within whom we are.. so even in the forum, which we use handles, to convey our thought, it’s no less.. YOU.. and if and as one thinks .. this is some situation they can exercise their meanness to others with destruction in their intent.. then one has to realize first that implies they are a destructive individual themselves.

we all may have and do have many challenges, of many sorts.. we all have experienced many things that other’s do in reference to gender items and many other manners and methods, but we have to care to see within and beyond such things, to grasp for the mental hold of awareness,to know, that people are individuals, and must be regarded as such, of one is too, to be regarded as such..

we may have thoughts, that provide us info for our cautions, but within such, we have to meet each individual as being such.. AN INDIVIDUAL.

and we then remain open to appreciate..

we may learn more and love more, if our expectations are less, and we expect less in the nature of thinking we should be patronized and concessions made and given, and the false judgments of of some pretentious chivalrous acts..
and deal with basic kindness..

so what the door was not opened for you, if you were walking alone you’d open it yourself, so why become handicapped and filled with expectations because you are with another, if it’s opened appreciated the courtesy, if it’s not open it yourself and stop being bent out of shape because someone did not fall all over themselves to open it for you… why should you expect such vain expectations of subservient actions from another, based on you being of a gender.. and in the next breath cry you want.. equality… you make yourself miserable with such trips games upon and within yourself and falsely judge other by, whether or not they act as your servant in such manners and ways..

people need to think, beyond selfishness expectation they impose upon others…

and do much thinking in many things, if you are a woman, stop expecting that men should perform some set of rituals for you, and if you are a man, stop thinking a woman has to serve some set of rituals for you..

then you might learn how to share kindness and be appreciating of their acts of kindness, and not judge them by how you expect their acts of kindness should be performed…
if you want a servant, go hire one.. but don’t try to assume and expect your mate should be your servant to some ritual standard.. and you might find your can appreciate more people, and love will have a realistic chance to have longevity..

the care within thought… is first to care to respect, and appreciate, and learn to stop being filled with expect as if others are to be our servants, just because they happen to like us, or we like them.. BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF

no one shares everything, nor does anyone alway give everything… we give and share what we can, as we can, and then we do so as we want..

that’s the hardest realism people can face.. everyone wants to pretend to be .. a complete giver..

and such thing does not exist..
if people learn that, they may stop expecting others to give, beyond what they themselves will give.. and they may care to think of the situation and circumstances that are individual in what and how we are able to give, and what it means when we are not able to give.. and we may start a learning process, to stop living with the continual IMPOSING our expectations upon others, to the point, we start to dislike them, and dislike ourselves, and then make test and games trying to see what we can get…

if we do that we .. just might learn how to start sharing… with our hearts, and not with our conniving minds.

Far too many of us, are turning down love, to chase illusions and delusions..

and many of us, are more vain, than we are appreciating of others.. to the point, we are too busy judging rather than seeing individuals, and being open to see others as individual whom we are open to actually.. appreciate..

we are guilt of this… and we must all learn to become wise unto the means and methods we defeat our own ability to relate with others… and stop blaming everything on others, and then we can began to grow more wise in how to live as social beings… interactively so.

that’s the greatest challenges to self, which so many of us, practice to avoid.