Relationships

“Relationships”

many people are hurt thru internet interactions, by people who think they are anonymously positing things, they don’t have to be accountable for..

what we do as people is what is within whom we are.. so even in the forum, which we use handles, to convey our thought, it’s no less.. YOU.. and if and as one thinks .. this is some situation they can exercise their meanness to others with destruction in their intent.. then one has to realize first that implies they are a destructive individual themselves.

we all may have and do have many challenges, of many sorts.. we all have experienced many things that other’s do in reference to gender items and many other manners and methods, but we have to care to see within and beyond such things, to grasp for the mental hold of awareness,to know, that people are individuals, and must be regarded as such, of one is too, to be regarded as such..

we may have thoughts, that provide us info for our cautions, but within such, we have to meet each individual as being such.. AN INDIVIDUAL.

and we then remain open to appreciate..

we may learn more and love more, if our expectations are less, and we expect less in the nature of thinking we should be patronized and concessions made and given, and the false judgments of of some pretentious chivalrous acts..
and deal with basic kindness..

so what the door was not opened for you, if you were walking alone you’d open it yourself, so why become handicapped and filled with expectations because you are with another, if it’s opened appreciated the courtesy, if it’s not open it yourself and stop being bent out of shape because someone did not fall all over themselves to open it for you… why should you expect such vain expectations of subservient actions from another, based on you being of a gender.. and in the next breath cry you want.. equality… you make yourself miserable with such trips games upon and within yourself and falsely judge other by, whether or not they act as your servant in such manners and ways..

people need to think, beyond selfishness expectation they impose upon others…

and do much thinking in many things, if you are a woman, stop expecting that men should perform some set of rituals for you, and if you are a man, stop thinking a woman has to serve some set of rituals for you..

then you might learn how to share kindness and be appreciating of their acts of kindness, and not judge them by how you expect their acts of kindness should be performed…
if you want a servant, go hire one.. but don’t try to assume and expect your mate should be your servant to some ritual standard.. and you might find your can appreciate more people, and love will have a realistic chance to have longevity..

the care within thought… is first to care to respect, and appreciate, and learn to stop being filled with expect as if others are to be our servants, just because they happen to like us, or we like them.. BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF

no one shares everything, nor does anyone alway give everything… we give and share what we can, as we can, and then we do so as we want..

that’s the hardest realism people can face.. everyone wants to pretend to be .. a complete giver..

and such thing does not exist..
if people learn that, they may stop expecting others to give, beyond what they themselves will give.. and they may care to think of the situation and circumstances that are individual in what and how we are able to give, and what it means when we are not able to give.. and we may start a learning process, to stop living with the continual IMPOSING our expectations upon others, to the point, we start to dislike them, and dislike ourselves, and then make test and games trying to see what we can get…

if we do that we .. just might learn how to start sharing… with our hearts, and not with our conniving minds.

Far too many of us, are turning down love, to chase illusions and delusions..

and many of us, are more vain, than we are appreciating of others.. to the point, we are too busy judging rather than seeing individuals, and being open to see others as individual whom we are open to actually.. appreciate..

we are guilt of this… and we must all learn to become wise unto the means and methods we defeat our own ability to relate with others… and stop blaming everything on others, and then we can began to grow more wise in how to live as social beings… interactively so.

that’s the greatest challenges to self, which so many of us, practice to avoid.