Learning Love .. and how to. Love

What is the madness sweeping the the globe ?
A man dressed as Santa Claus opened fire at a Christmas
Eve party in a suburban Los Angeles home that subsequently
caught fire, leaving three people dead, police said Thursday.



Police said they were seeking a person of interest, 45-year-old
Bruce Jeffrey Pardo. Pardo, described by police as armed
and dangerous, is the estranged husband of a person who
may have been at the party.


"He was going through some type of marital problems,
and we believe that this residence is a relative's
residence, " Lt. Pat Buchanan said.


The gunman arrived at the party in Covina late Wednesday
and immediately opened fire with a handgun, Buchanan said.
Witnesses told police that the man took off the Santa suit
and left the scene in street clothes.


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message to all men.... and women --

( you don't have to accept it)

Stop the Violence

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If you have a problem in your relationship, or your relationship
breaks up...

Be a Man and deal with life, and move along,
these weak minded men, who think they own or they have to
make someone stay with them, are becoming like mad men and
fools, and this goes as well for the women, who go on their
vengeance mission, because a relationship breaks up,
and set out to do everything malicious they can to the man.

These kind of mindsets within people are "CRAZED" and to each
person, you may need to learn the signs of these fools, long
before it become a situation of tragedy..

because Ignorance,

has a natural process to excalate into violence. and the result is

not just tragic for the husband or wife,

but

A devastation to the children and community.

These kind of people don't know that love is about two
people sharing their lives..

SOME PEOPLE .. think it means they "own"
each other,

and they are not respectful of each other as being individuals,

they rely on

the mate to be their source of esteem, but they have no idea,
that if you are going to have esteem, you need to have your
own, therefore, you have something to share.

Don't
come to others as if you are so "needy"..

Needy people are a danger to themselves, and to others,

People need to realize that relationship come and they
go, but what is constant is the presence of God, and if people
respect, and have faith in God, they will have more help
than they know, to get thru the rough time of broken relationships.

The most dangerous person in the world is one who is desperate, they will not only harm

others, they will harm themselves and never know the extent of their malice.

When you start to feel desperate for someone else, that is a true signal in yourself, that you need to find more within yourself to appreciate, more to love and more to respect within "yourself" and it let's you know, that you have tried to place self and another above God.

and

such people are prone to spill the blood of another, in their glorifying of their own desperation.



Women, be weary of weak minded men, who have a twisted illusion of need to act as if he owns you

And men, be weary of weak
minded women, who think they need you more than they need to love themselves.

... don't be one who is flattered by another's excessive jealousy,

because that same excessive jealousy

may well become your detriment,




If your mate can't stand for others to look at you and speak,

or for you to speak to others and simple natural be a person

with natural social interaction with other human beings,

then you should consider that you may
have a potential problem... and they will make your life
shrink, where you can't even be friendly with people
as natural human beings..

and you loose the ability to be a socially interactive human being.

what results is, such actions will diminish the spirt of life you have within yourself,

where you won't even be of ability to

show and share human compassion with others

If your mate wants to stay with you they will, and they want
to leave they will..

and

You forcing and threatning them to remain with you,

does not mean they will love you,

they may simply be
trying to save their own life until they can get away from
the foolishness and life ignorance of your obsessive ways of your attempts to enslave

them as if you own them


Men, you don't need to jump up like a brute trying to
protect a woman from every man that speaks to her,

she knew how to fend them off long before she met you, and she still
knows how to fend them off if that is what she wants to do, ...
if she need your help she will ask for it, but she don't
need you making an ass of yourself, and embarrassing her,
as if you "own her".. and the same goes for women.

It's not flattering - It's insulting to the dignity of her or him as an individual

only a foolish person would be flattered.



Most time, all it takes - if you see your mate in a troubling situation,

is walking up, and holding your mates
hand, and kiss them on the cheek, and the other person gets
the message, that you are a couple. Introduce yourself to the other person

if necessary, and ask if you and your mate may be of any assistance,

The person will more than likely excuse themselves from further interference





The man depicted in the story above, is simply a fool who was consumed with himself,

that he choose madness, over self review and his denial to see his own wrongs, left him
to become and embrace becoming a mad man, who is far less than even a man.. he is a killer,
He was a capturer, more than he was a mate,

he acted like he had a personal slave,

more than a relationship mate.


People be careful what kind of obsessive behavior you accept
as flattery, it may become your greatest detriment.


appreciation is in and of itself, a kindness shown and shared,

a kindness expressed, and acceptance of it, shared..


Stop running around thinking brutish obsession means
love, it means what it means, "brutish obsession"..



Love in and of itself , is about

"understanding, care, and compassion, and the will to accept each other, without
trying to own each other.




The person you love, was as much a full human being before
you met them, and if you can't respect that, then you
need to leave them alone..

and hope they have become more of a loving person after having been with you.

If your time of love with someone does not make them a better person,

then why are you with them if it is not to help each other become more of what individuals can become.

Just because maybe you contributed something that added
more trinkets in their life, or helped them with a particular
situation or maybe helped them with a particular goal,
does not mean you own them, and if you think they owe you something,
you should have told them what it cost, before you offered
to give or do it, and they probably would have declined the
offer, for the betterment of themselves and to remain free as a individual human being.


Before people make relationships.. maybe they should
sit down and write each other within the first weeks of their
relationship, a letter, Which has one theme, ...

"What it means to Share"

( Anyone who can't express what that means, may not be able to share, you need to know that ASAP)

... maybe they may find out
more about each other, or if they don't want to write,
then

at least have the conversation..

before you commit to something you don't understand.


This drive about he's cute, and she's pretty..
is the imagery of each other.. but you better take time and
find out the facts of the persons demeanor... and what is within their character as a person

and

what are their motivations as individual.


You don't need to play a game of 50 test, you need to simply communicate.

and

do so with the truth being your guide -

if you love each other, then the truth of it, will give you the words and ways to express it.


Maybe you may do yourself a favor to figure out how to date..
and

don't think it's some script of sitting across
a dinner table in some image nature status eatery..

and

realize it can be as simple as going to the " Local Park" and walk and talk..

it will give you time to think, time to talk and time to interact in a natural setting,

you might find out more about the person..

than you would ever know, playing "posture pretense games" in a restaurant imagery setting,

Where both are generally more pretentious than they are natural...
you might want to figure out .. this is your life.. not some
make believe flattery me with the choice of restaurant - and sitting across the table

agreeing to things you don't belive.

trying to play nice, at the expense of honesty's loss -

No two people will like everything the same,

it's our differecnes that bring out the beauty of and within interacting

and

learning more through our sharing of experiences with each other.

Then you build Love which Has a Foundatioin of person, as Individuals who share

Learn From Young People

Watch how they actually like each other as people and Individuals

they care about each other as individuals, and it is not based on what they buy each other, or who has a job title, or who can spend the most money

they just like being with each other. they talk about life, it's joys, it's pains, their fears, their challenges and they share their thiumphs

That's why young people in their early teens, know
and love each other more natural.. they sit and talk, they
go to the park, they sit in the back yard, or on the front porch
and they talk and laugh with each other.. and they have some
of the most natural developed relationship than the average
adult can even consider to develop. there relationship
are not built on who can buy the other one stuff, they don't
care about what they ate for lunch, or if the place they decide
to have a bite to eat is on some marquee list of places.


most adults their whole things turns into nothing but a
let's lie and play seduce each other with a mystery
game. and 4 weeks later, they are wondering who the hell
the other person is.

Love has it's natural drive for each person to groom themselves

it has it's natural drive to want to
share smiles with each other..

then go some place natural and do something in the openness of nature..

save that "let's go to dinner crap" until you have an idea of whom you
are having dinner with,

because most people go to dinner,
and can't stand whom they are eating with. but they
never know each other outside of the "let's impress
each other game".. and over a pretentions atompshere, they pass flash judgments upon each other, and more love is lost in those setting that is gained.

and peoples lives become damaged by the quick judgment insult it produces

There will be plenty of time for the let's dress up and
go to dinner, when you come to know each other.. and then
it won't be such a madness of judging it and putting crazed expectations such as.. "you should pay",
or "I expect him to pay"..

you'll know enough
about each other, that both of you can pay, or for sure you
understand .. the nature of fact, that if you are going to
stay together, that the money you manage and save will benefit
both of you...

Maybe we can work ourselves from juding our lives and relationship based on Material and Imagery things.

( More people are in Jail and doing criminal things, trying to get material things to impress a mate, or measure themselvs by it to acquire a mate)

People stop trying to follow the media image scripts, and
the made up depictions in novels..

half the stuff you see,
is designed for commercial & entertainment promotion.. staged and propped
by a whole crew of set designers...

and

people make fools of themselves and each other trying to recreate it... and
claim it romantic.. and insult the natural process of love, which in and of itself is natural. It has never requied a certain dress, or a certain eatery, or a certain car, or a certain anything, beyond the certainty to want to share itself ... in the natural appreciation of self.


Romance is simple.. it's anything, anytime,
two people appreciate each other, what they are doing and
where they are..

"PERIOD"

AND HALF THE PEOPLE don't even recognize romance,
except in "after-thought"... and the other
half try and pre-conjure it, and end up disappointed,

because
reality did not confine itself to the "conjured illusion"...
and

they persecute and judge each other harshly about a
scripted illusion, that neither of them told anything
about it.


Figure out, that as an adult.. will you either live through the usage
of understanding.. or will you waste more time, trying
to re-create illusions and then being pissed because you
did not get the delusion of the illusion...

and

you miss out on choosing to simply share....

you might find out whom
you are sharing with.

If you Take the time to share time doing so.

People need to understand the stuff they see on television and in movies, is not how to craft your life, that is made for media fantasy,

The average soap opera has a single theme, people scheming to steal someones mate, playing image games, where no one works, and walking around the house in $500 outfits, or who can swindle the other, and what kind of fight women can make with each other to play seduce me games - and then the pill commercial comes on and tell you how depressed you are, or what has broken down in your life, based on the marketing motive of saying what you need to go out and buy.

life emulates the madness of the drama addicts who write this stuff, and they write it to get paid, to depict drama, more than honest living.