Thursday, December 17, 2009

"Being Kind" - Vol. 1

Yes its a simple concept.. but requires the work of wisdom's within self, and compassion within understanding...

It should be a city wide campaign !!!

I've seen kids at many places have and show
more kindness and courtesy in their manner than many adults in some situations.

I think its a worthy thing for Parents to undertake in teaching their kids. We see far too much of the "tough talk, tough girl and tough guy attitude and disposition in far too many place and within far too many people.

for some reason people are on edge, and at the border of feeling contempt about far too many things. This may well be a signal that a person has some issue they are fighting within themselves or their lives.. which may well find a suitable and reasonable resolve, simply by making the effort, taking the time to think and to have a motivation to act with kindness.

We have far too many people, who are quick to say what they are not going to put up with, and what they are not going to deal with, and many times. it
may be their own thoughts about matters, more than the matter itself.

On your job, regardless what type of work it is.... Be considerate, be kind and be with the will, the want and the effort to try to understand, and make the effort to be understood- and we all benefit as a society. iF this management of self is engaged by us as human beings.



If you work serving the public.. GREET PEOPLE WITH A SMILE...
. SAY THANK YOU, AND THANK THEM FOR PATRONIZING THE BUSINESS WHICH YOU WORK.
IF YOU ATTEND A REGISTER AT ANY MERCHANT FACILITY -
SMILE WITH THE CUSTOMER, MAKE THEM FEEL WELCOME.
DON'T COME TO WORK UN GROOMED, AND DON'T COME TO WORK, WITH YOUR PERSONAL ISSUE BEING REFLECTED UPON AND AGAINST THE CUSTOMER.

IT DOES NOT MATTER WHAT TYPE OF JOB YOU DO.. BE PROUD TO HAVE A JOB. HAVE PRIDE IN THE JOB. AND REMEMBER, YOU ASKED FOR THE JOB, THEY DID NOT COME TO YOUR HOME AND ASK YOU TO WORK FOR THEM, SO COME TO WORK AND RESPECT THE JOB.

RESPECT THE FACT, THE PERSON OR COMPANY YOU WORK FOR, SPENT A LOT OF MONEY TO CREATE THIS BUSINESS,
AND IT TAKES A LOT OF MONEY TO MAINTAIN IT. AND IF YOU CAN'T OR DON'T HAVE YOUR OWN BUSINESS, THEN RESPECT THE ONE YOU WORK FOR. the owner spends a great deal of time, trying to make and keep it profitable, which benefits you, by providing a job. By all means "Respect that Fact".

YOUR JOB HAS RULES AND GUIDELINES, AN
D THEY HAVE PROCEDURES AND PROCESSES, WORK WITH IT, AND IF YOU FEEL IT CAN BE MADE BETTER.. GET A PIECE OF PAPER AND TAKE YOUR TIME AND WRITE OUT WHAT YOU THINK CAN BE BETTER AND HOW IT CAN BE MADE BETTER, AND ASK TO TALK TO YOUR BOSS. IT'S IN THEIR BEST INTEREST TO TRY AND MAKE THE JOB FUNCTION BETTER, NOT JUST FOR THE EMPLOYEE'S BUT FOR THE CUSTOMER. DON'T EXPECT TO GET EVERYTHING YOU WANT, BUT CONCENTRATE ON HOW TO MAKE PERFORMANCE BETTER, HOW TO MAKE SERVICE BETTER AND HOW TO MAKE IT BETTER FOR THE CUSTOMER'S CONVENIENCE.

Work to become an asset in your line of work..
If we all make that effort. We also make the effort to create an environment where other business would love to come and be a part of our city. Business seek to grow where employees are not problems but Assets..

Far too many business in this city, the people who service the public, show too much attitude toward the customer, as if they measure themselves again
st the customer, more than work to be of service to the customer.

If you work in any place and see things that need to be done. Don't wait for someone to tell you to do it, if it concerns cleaning, organizing and making things neat and orderly.

Being Kind is many things, beyond a shallow smile..
it is part of the character of individuals, and if you work on building a solid nature of Being Kind, you also develop a more workable mindset to be a respected co worker, a valued employee, and you are appreciated by the customers. You will find, that at the end of the day.. you will go home feeling positive and feeling that your day made a positive contribution in life and in your work. But if you are a contention maker, and a chronic complainer, you become the least liked employee, and you make not just your work hard, but you make the work of everyone hard, and worst in the mix, you make customers not want to come to the business you work for.
If customers don't come, then they don't need you as an employee... and you defeat your own ability to have a job..

Being Kind is many things, but it always shows the effort to be respectful and considerate. in Life - at home, at school, at work, and during the activities you engage within your daily life.

Parents


"Hugs and Kisses"... and attention of many sorts, is often times given when babies are born- it should be the beginning of showing and teaching love, not just an episode, which fades away as the years come and go...

YES, it runs the gambit...of life, and the benefits to your child and the world are multiplied when your love does not cease to be shown, and nourished in the years upon years of not just their life, but your life as well. but what is fact and what is truth - "As a parent, your child is your responsibility".. regardless how anguished you may be about that fact.

It is a "Fact"... Facts Represents "Truths"...about people, places and things, and it certainly is a Fact,... your child is your responsibility- to nurture, to love, to teach and to discipline as well as educate them to be themselves, disciplined as they grow.

"What works in your life, works in their life .. it's COMMUNICATION... you like it done to you in a respectful and reasonable manner, and yes... your children, being as human as you are, want the same. They already understand you are the parent, but they become angry and unruly, when you stop being the parent, who shows and share love, or when you become the parent, who has not guidelines for discipline, which you hold them to. they resent it, as time goes on...

( you as an adult, hear it all the time, of people either speaking with pride about the discipline their parents taught them, or they are complaining about the lack of discipline they did not get ).. Men, Women, Boys and Girls, all remember the good things their parents teach them, and those things guide them in their years of living.

Choose not to fail your child- nor yourself - if you praise them for learning, they will embrace learning, if you give them acknowledgment for their positive efforts, they will work hard to produce positive results.

If your child is unruly, and seems to fail at trying to get a education, the problem began long before that child entered school. It began at HOME. and its AT HOME, those problems need to be addressed.






If your child is always in detention, or sent to the "last chance school".. its as much to do with the parent as it has to do with the child.
If you lost the ability to manage discipline, it may mean that you need to re-discipline yourself as a parent, in order to manage disciplining your child.

Don't Run to the Parole officer, or the Schools Administrators, or the Court house, screaming at the staff, because if your child did not cause ruckus that involve legal issues, or do things that have placed them or parole, or had gone to school and followed instruction and did their study to prepare for school.. then they would not have a problem to begin with. So before you run to the organizations with a boisterous mentality, you may want to look at your home life and that of your child. and what results will generally be found, is the same child is unruly at home, and undisciplined at home, they are irresponsible at home, as well as they become when at school.

Yes, young people will be young people, but they also set limits within themselves, about what they do, if there is a guideline set for them early in life. some may do things, of various sorts, but in the over-all they will be good natured people and respectful of others, if that has been taught to them.

Any parent who buys their child a Uniform for school, should make sure it fits before they spend their money on it, then there would be no boys walking around with their pants sagging, or girls in skin tight uniforms. "This is a result of poor choices and poor actions by the parent". and its followed by the parent, ignoring the fact they are wearing their clothes falling off their bodies.

When they are out of school.. then what ever fashion or style they want.. do it... but be mindful this city has legal ordinance regarding this matter. Now the question is, do you as a parent request your child to live within the ordinance of the city ?

Their Guidance for a Future is within your role as a Parent.... How much that matters to you will reflect in your child's "GENERAL OVER-ALL CONDUCT"...


un-real expectation within relationships, break up couples, and separate children into a divided family. If parents fail to communicate with each other, the result is a broken family...

effort to work to understand, is equally so, in need of effort to work to be understood.

These are solid choices-- before anyone chooses to become a Parent, and once you are a parent, by the fate of life...
Effort to work to understand, is equally so, in need of effort to work to be understood.

Its not our needs, that bring us troubles, its when we as people choose and allow our wants, to get out of control and become exaggerated. ..... and that... becomes many things, which produce many dysfunction which impact your children .... as well as you as a parent.

Effort to work to understand, is equally so, in need of effort to work to be understood.


"Hugs and Kisses"... and attention of many sorts, is often times given when babies are born- it should be the beginning of showing and teaching love, not just an episode, which fades away as the years come and go...

YES, it runs the gambit...of life, and the benefits to your child and the world are multiplied when your love does not cease to be shown, and nourished in the years upon years of not just their life, but your life as well. but what is fact and what is truth - "As a parent, your child is your responsibility".. regardless how anguished you may be about that fact.

It is a "Fact"... Facts Represents "Truths"...about people, places and things, and it certainly is a Fact,... your child is your responsibility- to nurture, to love, to teach and to discipline as well as educate them to be themselves, disciplined as they grow.

"What works in your life, works in their life .. it's COMMUNICATION... you like it done to you in a respectful and reasonable manner, and yes... your children, being as human as you are, want the same.



Effort to work to understand, is equally so, in need of, Effort to work to be understood.