Relationships

“Relationships”

many people are hurt thru internet interactions, by people who think they are anonymously positing things, they don’t have to be accountable for..

what we do as people is what is within whom we are.. so even in the forum, which we use handles, to convey our thought, it’s no less.. YOU.. and if and as one thinks .. this is some situation they can exercise their meanness to others with destruction in their intent.. then one has to realize first that implies they are a destructive individual themselves.

we all may have and do have many challenges, of many sorts.. we all have experienced many things that other’s do in reference to gender items and many other manners and methods, but we have to care to see within and beyond such things, to grasp for the mental hold of awareness,to know, that people are individuals, and must be regarded as such, of one is too, to be regarded as such..

we may have thoughts, that provide us info for our cautions, but within such, we have to meet each individual as being such.. AN INDIVIDUAL.

and we then remain open to appreciate..

we may learn more and love more, if our expectations are less, and we expect less in the nature of thinking we should be patronized and concessions made and given, and the false judgments of of some pretentious chivalrous acts..
and deal with basic kindness..

so what the door was not opened for you, if you were walking alone you’d open it yourself, so why become handicapped and filled with expectations because you are with another, if it’s opened appreciated the courtesy, if it’s not open it yourself and stop being bent out of shape because someone did not fall all over themselves to open it for you… why should you expect such vain expectations of subservient actions from another, based on you being of a gender.. and in the next breath cry you want.. equality… you make yourself miserable with such trips games upon and within yourself and falsely judge other by, whether or not they act as your servant in such manners and ways..

people need to think, beyond selfishness expectation they impose upon others…

and do much thinking in many things, if you are a woman, stop expecting that men should perform some set of rituals for you, and if you are a man, stop thinking a woman has to serve some set of rituals for you..

then you might learn how to share kindness and be appreciating of their acts of kindness, and not judge them by how you expect their acts of kindness should be performed…
if you want a servant, go hire one.. but don’t try to assume and expect your mate should be your servant to some ritual standard.. and you might find your can appreciate more people, and love will have a realistic chance to have longevity..

the care within thought… is first to care to respect, and appreciate, and learn to stop being filled with expect as if others are to be our servants, just because they happen to like us, or we like them.. BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF

no one shares everything, nor does anyone alway give everything… we give and share what we can, as we can, and then we do so as we want..

that’s the hardest realism people can face.. everyone wants to pretend to be .. a complete giver..

and such thing does not exist..
if people learn that, they may stop expecting others to give, beyond what they themselves will give.. and they may care to think of the situation and circumstances that are individual in what and how we are able to give, and what it means when we are not able to give.. and we may start a learning process, to stop living with the continual IMPOSING our expectations upon others, to the point, we start to dislike them, and dislike ourselves, and then make test and games trying to see what we can get…

if we do that we .. just might learn how to start sharing… with our hearts, and not with our conniving minds.

Far too many of us, are turning down love, to chase illusions and delusions..

and many of us, are more vain, than we are appreciating of others.. to the point, we are too busy judging rather than seeing individuals, and being open to see others as individual whom we are open to actually.. appreciate..

we are guilt of this… and we must all learn to become wise unto the means and methods we defeat our own ability to relate with others… and stop blaming everything on others, and then we can began to grow more wise in how to live as social beings… interactively so.

that’s the greatest challenges to self, which so many of us, practice to avoid.

wake up, people !!!

COMMENT FROM AN ARTICLE, ABOUT SOME SILLY PARENTS, TRYING TO SUE "MySpace, because their kids, went out to date someone..

it's not mySpace problem, it's the nature of the young person who wanted to do what they wanted to do.


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"THINK"

people.. wake up to the reality of what is a young person.. and know, it's a Person, who is just not as old as you... but they are still .. A "PERSON"

people keep wanting to assume that young people are less than people who do stuff on their own motivation, because, we as humans, wantt to consider them kids.. they are people, young people.. who think, who feel and who follow their motivations.
people go "straight stupid" when it comes to young girls.. and want to think of them as some innocent doll or mannequin or something.. sad reality that some of you may find hard to accept, but "nature" awaken and made active their sexual nature.. at puberty.. that's the whole point and fact of what puberty is.. a inner body sexual awakening to be able to reproduce, and that comes with it's own set of variables.. the same variable that you as a OLDER, "now" becomming more ignorant person, as you make a million reasons to deny the fact that .. nature has spoken in these peoples bodies.. but you had best wake up and realize, they have the same urges that drive YOU, THEY MAY NOT HAVE EXPERIENCED THE SAME bs that you have, but then so is life, not everyone will experience the same thing. in all your so call wisdoms, many of you and US, are just as emotionally lost as these young people.. we, think making money makes us wiser, it only means we can buy more stuff, and create more debt.. that's it!!!!!!!!!!!!!! we are a society that is so groomed in the Henry Ford doctrine, of making society, a group and mass of INDUSTRIAL ROBOTS, we forgot, that life is still life... the Industrial revolution, did not change nature, it changed the delusions of us as people... before this revolution of industry dominating our lives.. people at 14-15-16 were getting married and raising families... the only reason they can't do that is because no one will hire them, it does not mean they can't work, it means no one will hire them... that's the principal matter and fact. we are groomed to think, Oh, everyone should have a college degree, well that's not going to happen either. everyone is not interested in being a industrial groomed robot.. and nature is still going to be nature, and no degree chase is going to stop the natural nature of puberty, and with puberty comes sexual urges, as with anyone... in this stupid society, we got just as many older women, making screwed up emotional decision as young people.. if it was not, there'd not be so much divorce, people killing one for money or some emotional anguish.. all we are in principal is older, not more of anything but older... in the principal of nature and it's impact.. and today people don't know any more about sex than a 14 year old, hell young people probably talk about the details of it more than older people, who just go do stuff and become more entwined in more crazy situations, than young people.. Man made the law, trying to control sex .. nature does not regard those laws, the spirt of desire in young people, could care less about a man created law, and nature could care even less about it, the desire is not going to stop, because one region, says 16 is the age of consent, and another region says 18.. the body don't care about that, it's going to get aroused when it gets aroused..

so instead of thinking that you got some human pet, you call a kid, you had better realize these are young people.. which means they are "PEOPLE" WHO JUST HAPPEN TO BE YOUNGER THAN YOU.. but the operative word is.. "PEOPLE"..
now make of it what you will to appease your own mind, but know, that nature don't give a darn about your appeasement mentality, it still is making these people, with the ability to be fertile, and with fertility is bonded the nature of desire.. deny it if you choose, you only make a fool of yourself.. by trying to deny a fact of nature.. and you can make yourself crazy trying to control it, and all you will be.. is lied to, if that's what it takes to get you to shut the hell up, and young people, know how to play you, more than you know how to play them... they have watched your appeasing attitude and manipulative demeanor all their lives.. they can play you like they had a stop watch.

there is not one of you here, going to stop a young person from screwing if that's what they want to do... bleep, scream and yell all you want, all you will do is damage their esteem, and imply to them, how much more they need to lie, to get you to shut your mouth. they have their own sense of morality, and your's is not theirs.. that's why they are an individual..
if people stop being stupid, long enough to start talking to their young people at the age of 7-8-9 then you'd not be tripping, but people are so stupid, they wrongly assume that at these ages kids don't know about what sex and sex organs are.. they know, but because YOU act like it's something foreign, it makes them not talk about it with you, because you have made it appear taboo, to talk about and they see how uncomfortable your are to talk about it, that's why many of them look at you like you are some old prudish person, who lies about life and nature. they have to run around being afraid to talk to you about thing they naturally know.. yes, your young person masturbates, and they will and you can't stop them.. but the quicker you realize they do .. then the quicker you may learn how to talk to them as people, not as if they are some pet toy..

here's how stupid people are.. if a kid is good at a sport, you say, OH they are so mature, and if they earn money, people say, oh they are so strong and so mature.. and it does not matter if they are 12, this is the attitude that people take.. but you had better wake, up and realize those young people who are not sports icon's and some other money making machine, are strong and more mature than you think, and no one .. not even you, is so mature that you don't and won't make mistakes.. and when you make them, you just like anyone else is looking for someone to help you, but you resent helping them... now how stupid is that.

if you got some illusion young people don't think..
read this..

http://www.ajc.com/metro/content/metro/stories/2008/04/01/threat_0401.html?cxntlid=homepage_tab_newstab

understanding the importance of making babies

if women are smart, who want a family, they will
do it while young, ..


if a woman in her early years, have her kids, by the time she
is 30, her kids will be school age, and then she can continue
her schooling, and enter a career, and not have to then take
off from the career, to "drop" a baby, and then
set it up on a baby sitter cycle... she will have had time to be with her baby during it's
formative years, and when the child is old enough for school,
then she too will be in her school for higher learning, and
there won't be such a great loss between mother and
child, for the first 5-7 years of the child's life.



having children, young, is more suited for the live and
body mechanic's of a woman... that's why nature
made her body capable of giving brith young, and it takes
away the birth giving potential as she gets older.. by the
natural process of what is life.. even studies, continue
to point to and denote, the many problems that are inherent
in women who wait till they are past 30 to give birth, the
risk factor is high, probably more downs syndrome babies,
and surely those that have a great deal of emotional connectivity
loss.. these women drop a baby, and 3 weeks later, the baby
is with a baby sitter, and she's back to career chasing..
a baby's emotions are not developed enough to swing
between the baby sitter and the mother, and to learn and
know any nature of emotional continuity, with such a dramatic
fluxation, between so much character changes in their
lives on a daily basis.. I think it may even explain why we
have a whole society that is hung up on pills and raised with
a dsyfunctional demeanor, and claiming depression at
every turn.. they never had the experience of stable bonding
as a baby... they were bounced from pillar to post, and treated
like a sideline ornament, that was put on some achievement
measurment track.. status equating things, before it
can even find out how to natural love and interact in a family..



Truth is many of the young mothers, may not find divorce,
so readily, if they care and think about the greatness of
rasing a child, as being more important, than daily sitting
at home, pissed off and tripping about, if she is climbing
the corporate ladder, or gaining some title in the corporate
world as her greater crown of glory.. they may be more receptive
to their mate, rather than pissed off because he is not flooding
her with material stuff, and swooning over her, like she
is the only other person on earth. by that, it simply means
raise the baby because you love doing it, not acting like
someone owes you something because you are devoting you
focus to being a good mother, a individual who is pleased
being a mother, and then you might find it easier to be as
well a woman who love the man in her life as part of that..



truth is people have forgot and lost what the meaning of
raising a child is..


this craziness of.. I'm a professional, I make a lot
of money, I have corporate power, I'm playing the game
of mens business dealings, and Oh' by the way... I have
dropped a baby, that I'm called it's mother.