Try your heart..

May 23, 2010 11:39 am

Try your heart it may expose something wonderful in you.. we have tried devise of every sort, and we have tried manipulations with assorted tactical engagements. and each times, we find we have to unwind the strings from ourselves, which we bind ourselves within, trying to free ourselves from the binding we tried to entangle another.. If you put rules on another, you have also put them on yourself, if you put constrains on another, then you have also constrained yourself - and when two people part, they struggle trying to free themselves from that same binding they sought to bound another into. We get angry, because the binding we sought to place, made us sacrifice our own self expression in a many varied ways. Then we think the other owes us something for the binding we placed on ourselves, in our attempts to bind and bound another. and realize that neither was free within the game of self binding and the bounding of each other. Yet, we say, love is free, but we won't let it be- we start with a thread, and it quickly turns into a rope, and then we convert it into a chain, the minute that love is claim in mutual loving.. and wonder why suddenly the relations goes from one that people do things, to share enjoyments, and quickly become, a cycle of 'duty imposition upon each other".. until they are bound within the house looking at each other, anguished because they no longer feel free to be. then they resent sharing with each other, and hold contempt at the thought of each other having any joy, and any pleasure without a list of pre-requisits... and people wonder why their passion becomes entrapped in their emotional bubble of contempt.. and they fight like mad, each other.. yet they won't free themselves within themselves, back to learning how to simply share and appreciate the opportunity to share, and learn to go out and do things, which they can enjoy the opportunity of sharing. When your relationship get in these doldrums, go do something together, don't sit and wait on the other to plan and suggest it, you plan and suggest things you can share, and the other will eventually do the same, and you each learn to be free in sharing with each other, the things you see and have interest to share in what is loving. Stop measuring it based on who pays, or who make the first move to plan something... that's childish and self defeating.. stop assuming, which person has to pay this or that, so you can feel comfortable to share, you have to ask yourself, are you sharing or selling, the experiences of sharing. yes, there's much to learn in loving, and that much is within self... which is the parts one learns beyond where selfishness encircles the self... if you can't surmount that, then you encase your own love in a cage and chain it to the floor, and become anguished - but afraid to look at what you, yourself have done in caging your love and the opportunity to share it. Growing and learning is a wonderful thing, when we accept that we've not learned everything, and that we will never grow more than enough.. Try your heart, it may just free your soul -- to share its love.

funny thing about living

May 24, 2010 9:32 pm

there are many attitudes in living - but within it all, there is some learning engaged, it is up to the individual to gain that learning.. not everything is liked nor will everything be liked, but what is relative to growth, is the ability to not shut down at the first agitation, and sadly, this is a point of discussion. people shutting down, the minute they don't get their emotional high from something, but as with life, the sun does not reach the earth everyday in an un clouded skies, and there are many types of could that bring many thing that take place beneath those clouds, and the sun shines above them even still. I have found in this web site, that women are quick to shut down at the slightest thing, but they claim they are open minded, but close it at the slightest thing when they don't get agreed to, patronized, or solicited with nearly suck up like patronizing from men. they run from the magazine, because the men there don't play worship the female games, and talk about the reality of situations, and the real world truth, that exist. the oddity is, some women will quickly tell men, the exact same thing about other women, when she is trying to catch him, and claim herself above the rest, but turn and detest men, acknowledging the same things. people can read blogs, and get attitudes, and not engage to share commentary, as if they feel that will diminish the blogs which already exist when they get to it. there are people who get in the web sites and slam and fight each other for a million motivations of attitude, and many have never met nor know anything about the other individuals. Attitudes that some think they are too pretty for others, or too elite minded for others, or too special for others, and the self consumption of it all, takes more from them then they think they deny unto others. some will deal with their disagreements, and move along to the next subject, and maybe they agree maybe they don't but, they did not shut down.. some carry grudges, like they have a collection bag, waiting to fill it up... some roll with the changes and keep being interactive. funny things about living... when the whole of it is simply, we all will live and we all will someday not live anymore, every person that eats, must s--t, and every person who is awake will need sleep... no amount of money or ego, will make anyone get an extra minute when their time comes, nor will their ego, get them any more favor in Gods eyes, what will matter, is the good they do, and if they can engage life with human regard for others.. have your pleasures and have your fun, dream your goals, and pursue your dreams.. but know that nothing is a fantasy, but all things which become a part of life is the reality that becomes your living. never think you are too high, because you may find how low you are, and never think you are too low, because you can find that you stand as equal as others, in the fact of being alive and being a human being of the world. No matter what you think you expect, respect must meet respect, if it is to be respectful with mutual regard. what's between your legs can make more a fool of you, than those you try to make a fool of with it. and no matter who or how you engage your sex, it will never be anymore than you think it is, and when time comes and goes, its just what it is, sex... and every experience is what you make of it or what you don't make of it... so rating and judging another, means that you probably have ignored your own functional performance, while you are judging another. your stuff is no better than the next person, because its a generic body parts, all females have one that is specific to females , and all males have one that is specific to males. and the summation of it all, comes to the simplicity of - communication. you either can and will and do, or you surround it with conditions and restrict it with expectations. and your life shows the results...

not all men, and not all women are alike- they are.. "Individuals"

May 29, 2010 12:45 pm

I may discuss a lot of thing bout the human realities, but not all men, and not all women are alike, and not all women are users, and not all men are users.. individuals make those choices, as individuals, until they find the enlightenment to actually care of and about each other. many women, have as many fears of men, and all people fear being used, or taken advantage of and /or made a fool of. but when one encounters a situation that may have meet a user or what they feel is an abuser, that may be that persons defense mechanism, more than it is the person they want to be. Now there are people who care about nothing but self, but they are easily identified, and they generally will expose that in the most obvious way. But, as to the psychology of people, there are many things individuals are battling with in their concepts of life and living, and dealing with relationships. EZ, often says for example, if one goes to Thailand, take your time, and get to know the woman, before you fall head over heels, and the same thing goes for women, they must get to know the person before they fall heads over heels. Likewise so, regardless of what country you live, take your time, if you are dealing with these internet romances, don't loose your head before you share face to face meeting, and don't try to make it more than it is, until it becomes to be what it is... sex is what it is, but each person need to understand what they are doing when they engage it, if you are looking for fun, find someone who is looking for fun. if you know the other person is looking for love, and you are looking for fun only, then someone is going to get hurt in the exchange. People let their desires over-rule their integrity, and they either damage themselves and or others, or they make a bad situation from what could otherwise be a good situations. many men and many women, can deal with honesty if people -make that their priority to be. but having covert motives, won't work.. don't pretend you just want fun, when you are really looking for a stable love building relationship, and don't claim you want love, when your eyes are plasters on benefits for selfish consumption... be prepared to talk 'after sex", because much is often not said, before sex, but if you don't talk about it before, you certainly will deal with the realism of it after, so if it comes to that, then talk, but try to talk straight from the start, and you start it like you want it to be, and it works without people playing games. some women are taught to equate a mans love by how much he spends, you can change that, by spending nothing, and showing that you care, if she does not accept it unless you spend money, then it may be best to let her go find someone who is willing to buy her openness to understanding to share care. but no matter how many things we may know about what people do, and how people do things, we cannot claim, everyone is the same, nor is every gender the same in what they do, because if a person is alive, they are certainly and individual, and if they die, they will die as an individual. so they live as an individual..