" homemade Jam"

" homemade Jam' yes, most of our Jams are home-made, nope not the
Jams you put on a biscuit, but the "jams we find ourselves
entangled in our social realm..


they are home-made.. we have to first learn to recognize this, and once becoming
aware, then we can work to develop our lives thru change..
yes, it's within, and it is of our ability to do so..



step one, no matter how much we appreciate ourselves, be
it for what we own, how our body is built, or our face, or the
value we put on our sex organs, or the value we claim about
our achievements.


if you are sitting around wonder why you don't have
love.. and why there is so many problems in you finding love..
then that problems probably exist deep within you.. Are you with the dare to face such truth..


if you want kindness, then it has to first be given into the
expressive action of being and expressing yourself.


if you want love, then it has to first be given into the expressive
actions of being and expressing yourself..


we have to see individuals, not based on what we can get from
them, but what we can share with them..


we have to see individuals not for how much we get an ego boost
of them appreciating us, but how much joy we can feel to see
things in them to share and express appreciation about
and engage exchanging appreciations expressions.


we have to truly learn that we can't expect everyone
to agree to everything we think and say, and stop looking
for people who claim to agree to everything we say... because
everyone sees the world differently and there may be similarities,
but there is always the individual variation that has it's
differences.. so we may care to stop looking for appeasement,
and assuming that we can only get along with people who are
appeasing, and pretentiously over exaggerated in their
kind presentation... kindness that is real is equally
so truthful, and everything that is truthful is not always
pleasant to digest, because it challenges the values that
we cling to as if we are unable to grow and learn..and become
more aware therefore becoming more wise...in how to live.



homemade jam... is many times created by our ways of thinking,
which is many times, more selfish than considerate of the
self of others.


when we learn what is diversity, and embrace the mind to
regard and appreciate it, we then can see people as individual,
rather than our self measuring based upon ourself, which
influences our first internal impression of them... and
we just might learn to grow, and how to understand others,
thru sharing exchanges.. and seeing different perspective
to things..


we might learn to smile.. more naturally...


and relieve the continual running into "jams"..



all of us probably have many parts of ourselves within this..



do you see any parts of yourself in this ??

more on teaching kids about sex

you may care to answer him in an honest fashion, as you being
the women most admired in his life, he will value what you
tell him that department, and it will help his confidence
in what he learns when he begins to get to the age to relate
with girls and eventually women..


it's not that his question are weird, you are not at
ease to talk about what you know.. and you have to overcome
that, or he most certainly will pick up on your reluctance
and he will see it too, within the nature of it's insecurity
to discuss such.


people talk all this talk about, how the formating years
are important, but then don't engage the task that
come with a challenge in the life department of the realism
of the natural self and it's natural functions.


If kids are taught about God in the process, then they learn
responsibility along with awareness of their sexual self..
the natural self already has it's regard for the capacity
for responsibility, built within the sensitivity
of the concerns about our body organs. they know.. people
don't just go banging anything at any time, and they
will learn their roles in relations and among their peers
in that regards as well. there is a mass of realism in the
world that conveys the responsibilities that come along
with sex... and these kids see that too... they want to know
what they ask...

Teaching kids about sex and their body

just like they learn their ABC and to count, they should
be taught equally so about their body.. why let them grow
without being aware of their physical self... they can
understand more than people think they can.. that's
why the ask such intriguing question ... they know they have it between their legs, why not start
talking to them about what it is... they are the one's
who need the info and to learn to be comfortable with it,
rather than think it's something foreign to their
bodies, and their mind is not suppose to know about it..
but their eyes see it..


so teach them... I'm sure they can recognize anything
that is shown to them using a basic biology book... and while
being at it, you can teach them about their whole body, and
what it is to be responsible about it, so they know when puberty
comes, they know what that is too.


... so why not
talk to them, they already know that part of their body makes
them feel something, and they already know they like the
feeling and it catches their attention.. they will understand
more than people think they can..





but truth is people as many grow up in a society that tries
to make youth pretend that part does not exist, and they
are taught to ignore it, so they develop a go hide and play
with it mindset, and then lie and pretend they don't
know what it is... just to appease the parent. because
some parents get tongue tied and become suddenly plain
ignorant.. but the oddity of that, is that same parent can
tell their mate, all about how much they think they are not
getting their stuff played with enough and then getting
pissed off because the other person can't read their
mind of how they want it played with..


but when it comes to trying to teach kids about what it is..
they draw a blank...


you learn by teaching them, as their questions will teach
you too.