it's not just about sex.. but drugs, guns and violence and much else that is in this society.

et's all bear in mind this is not the only situation of this.. and we've all over the course of the past number of years heard of multiple incidents of this.. bear in mind... that is is just as relative to Drug use as it is to Sexual activity... as well as many many other things that are part of the nature of life.. which youth do indulge... so don't make this just a element of sex.. in your perceptions.. consider there are many other things that are a part of the whole of things. as you ponder points..

and daily parents are telling their kids from an early age to keep their pants on.. but we see over and over they go to the internet and any other method they can find to enact their urges... I would not even begin to know where the element is that can curb or change this.. we can blame this and blame that and no matter how many places we place or see to blame... it continues.. and the reality is its a two party function... legal and nonlegal.. and it continues.. so what do you people presume to be the fix for it, or do you think it can be fixed..

these are real questions.. and surely they are not question that are liked or desired to confront or face.. but they are there daily and the frequency of it continues to increase...

I doubt that anger and name calling and passing judgments in this site is going to fix the problem or the situation...


so it may be functional to work on what can be done individually to deal with your off springs in knowledge, information and education.. and actually talk to them .. not when they get puberty age.. but you maybe may care to start long before that and make such education a part of their growing lives..

people like to get emotional about stuff and get wound up in the emotions to the point they want to kick some butt... but sadly in our society.. " butt kicking has never been sanctioned".. and it's unlikely that it will. ..

and once something is done .. it can't be undone... so logic would indicate that you impart knowledge and information .. and hope that it sinks in.. becase no matter how it's tried no one.. absolutely no one can make people or kids do things.. you may instill fear to a degree till they reason it into non fear... but you can simply try to give them knowledge and information...

people really don't like the truth.. and they really will fight it.. as if they can raise a perfect child.. but many of these who are priest, teachers and business people.. came from families who evidentially steered them to higher education... but that did not stop them from developing their urges and enacting their desires... so you have to do what you can.. via info and knowledge and try and arouse awareness.. and then you have no alternative other than to trust they will do the right thing and if they don't .. what are you going to do..." disown them"".. riducle them the rest of their lives, or label them something negative the rest of their lives and throw it in their face the rest of their lives..

and that has resulted to just what we have today.. many... youth and young adults and even old adults that don't want to talk to their parents and some don't want to have anything to do with them..

now that's a reality that many care not to comprehend... but sadly it's a reality that is all and far too common in the landscape of life..

prepare your mind for what it is unprepared for and fears to prepare itself for.. becase you never know what life will present as a reality in the life of a person, a parent and a child....

and this fantasy assumption that you are raising and angel.. is merely an illusion.. that you may find shattered.. by the simple act of your off-spiring making a choice that does not meet your expectations... and that is the reality that life continues to present..

there are people who hate their kids becase they did not want to go and be a doctor, or an auto mechanic like pop's and or an attorney like the family legacy has had for years.. or they don't want to be a soldier becase great grand-dad was a veteran.. and people break ties every day behind what they expected for their child to the point they are of many who put condition of their inheritance based on the kid doing what the parent assumes they want them to do or be..

"every household has their set concepts of what raising a child is and how it should be done... and every household face their challenges in what is raising a child... and there is no one.. absolutely no one.. who is gifted with some preformatted method... some have as we discussed the young mother's and they face the same challenges as the so called professional person .. who is raising a child.. and it comes down to the same reality.. each child is an individual.. and each child becomes to be a thinking and decision making individual.. and no two have ever been alike.. and no two ever develops at the same level and rate... nor do they have the same disposition and or character.... people seem to forget that so often... and try and raise them as "generics"... and they tell you in a million ways .. they are individuals and they are continually ignored... maybe people may one day care to see each and every one as an individual and they just might listen... as they grow... or you can try as man do.. to beat them into submission and send them off to camp and boarding schools and even lock them in the house... but what you can't do is control their minds...and trying to do som can build more wrath toward you than anything..

there are kids who plot and kill up the classroom, the teacher and other's.. including they will kill their mother and father and sisters and brothers.. and those acts are increasing by the days.. they are killing themselves at an alarming rate as youth suicide is increased over the past few years... and these are the same age one's that people are more concerned if they are sexually functioning... so you might want to figure out there is a whole person involved in what you term as a "kid".. some of them may even tell you that sex is not in their thoughts or whatever.. just to keep you from judging them.. and will lie and manipulate and do what ever and if they are caught and or exposed.. will take any course that relieves them of the guilt.. and the assessments by any means that is available.. and it still does not mean they did not act by choice, desire and motivation... some of them indulge homosexuality activity right in the home becase that's their choice and option of outlet becase they can do their desire and at the same time do it and remain non suspect and engage all they want .. with the parents unknowing approval.. by bringing their choice of partner home.. and if that what it takes for them to have sex.. and not have to face being judged they will as many do.. make that choice.. and walk right in front of you and put on that innocent face becase they know that's the only way you will accept them and not ridicule them and lay a life long tag on them... kids are people... and people may learn to learn that fact.. and they might learn how to be a parent to a offspring who is actually a individual person... that has a functioning mind.. and "not just " a figurine in the dream sequence that the parent holds in their mind...


and you won't know becase you can't and maybe have not developed enough communication levels to even be privy to their minds concepts or their care to express them with you.. and your fantasy concept of what is a kid is just that.. a fantasy concept born from you many days of thinking that they remain that little baby in your arms years ago... now that is definately a bubble shattering reality for any parent to face.. some can't even face when their kids are ready to go off to college and try and make them attend one close to home .. when the kids probably in some cases can't wait to get as far from home as possible.. they will gravitate back.. when they want to.. when they feel they have established their own identity without the parent trying to impose their without considering what are the thoughts within their offspring..

you people see these video's of girls gone wild.. all those kids come from someone family.. and they came from someone's dictates.. and the world of many variations of indulgences.. they all come thru as someone's kid... and they become to be what they deem they want to be.. and everyone in this life.. looks back as hindsight is more satisfying that forsight.. and think of what maybe they should/could nor maybe not, or should have done differently... and most of those that survive thru it are the one's that are not ridiculed and having it throw in their face at every turn for the rest of their lives.. many of you who claim you got the perfect kids.. may not even know your kid... as they know how to show you what ever face that will make you shut up and leave them alone .. since you don't listen to them. and many of you don't care to listen to them becase you only want to dictate.. your dream sequence.. and some only want to dictate what will make their social image in the community look sparkling.. and kids see this and kids know this and they look at some of you as the biggest hiproctits that ever walked...

so I say that .. simply to say.. think.. and think of more than yourself and more than you dream..when you care to think about your kids.. becase they will not play the script as you've written it for you life.. their life is part of the equation..

these so called image perfect kids that shot up columbine.. were suburban so called from good families.. and we continue to see kids plotting to blow up, bomb and kill and destroy other's by more means that some adults can even dream up... and some will wipe their parents off the map of life... and have that .. I'm innocent look still plastered on their face...
and society runs up.. Oh my little johnny was always so sweet and innocent.. or my little suzie was the perfect little darling.. people are image junkies.. and can't see beyond the image they will go broke for and get in massive debt to project.. and never know the substance of their own off-springs.. but.. all they care is .. they look good to the neighbors.. and the neighbors boast about how good of a parent they are..

how good of a parent are you when your kids don't respect you, don't trust anything you say, consider you a lying person who is filled with hiprocracy, and watch you got thru the many inabilities to deal with complex emotional problems.. and you result is generally.. F it, and I'm not dealing with this... and any other summation that .. shows them that you have a blockage of some sort.. so ... learning is a two way street.. and adjustments in understanding is always a factor.. becase people are so very different and every situation is it's own distinction.. relative to the individual... which .. again brings the point of .. what is communication ..?
and how is it best conducted and how is it achieved.. and how does it function.. in the relationship..


one fact in life.. people develop... puberty is a very intricate element in the life of a human being.. and it remains so until people reach that change of life known as the menopausal state.. and then it takes on a different element of impact.. and once it sets upon and with the life of an individual .. it has it's own natural elements that take affect and effect ...

people try and ignore and deny that.. trying to make their offsprings remain as some sexless being... and nature and the acts and events of life continually tell you that's not a valid assumptions.. but people still have the compulsion to beat it into the submission of such ... and as a result we have a world of people with dysfunctional concepts of sexuality and life and life and the impacting reality of sexuality.. and we have in the adult world.. the continual crumbling of relationships... that 90% of them or maybe even more can be traced back to some wrong way.. concepts about sex and sexuality.. that bring couples to bicker and fight and they don't even know what they are fighting about.. becase their mind will not allow them to even remotely connect the dots.

the world has more things in it that any of can know... and more things than any of will ever know.. and some of it is connected to the motivations within people... and the best we can do .. is .. not put barriers to communication..

but to each his own method ... and pray for the better of outcome.


again.. I will say... bear in mind... that is is just "as relative" to Drug use as it is to Sexual activity... as well as many many other things that are part of the nature of life.. which youth do indulge... so don't make this just a element of sex.. in your perceptions.. consider there are many other things that are a part of the whole of things. as you ponder points


kids know more ways to get more drugs than you even know of types of drugs that exist.. they know it soon as the drug hits the street.. what it is and where to get it.. they even now days know how to make their own.. as well as they know how to make bombs and get guns.. and anything that it strikes them to seek to acquire..